Yesterday I did some inpromptu coaching with a friend to help her gain courage to
write a profile and post it on an online dating service. Her experience in the past had been discouraging. “I always seem to end up with the dependent guys who
want a woman to cook and be all domestic for them.” Well to be honest, my friend does put out this vibe and her profiles have reflected it – she loves to cook and create a cozy home, and she enjoys making people feel comfortable. I suggested it might work better for her to ask for someone who enjoys these kinds of activities too, to avoid someone mistaking them for a service she provides. (Since this role assumption can still be an issue for people in our 50 something age bracket.)
Though women may still enjoy certain domestic arts and nurturing others, many of us have learned that we don’t want to take care of grown men… But we know we could have a great time playing house together. So why not ask for just that?
With love,
Mary Lou
